We’ve all been there—saying yes when we mean no, smoothing things over to keep the peace, then resenting the fallout later. In this week’s episode, Margo and Tashira get honest about people‑pleasing: where it starts (hello, gendered expectations), the subtle ways it sneaks into work and relationships, and how it keeps us avoiding the hard stuff. They compare the “good girl” scripts they absorbed growing up with the boundaries they’re learning to practice now, and they talk about the difference between being kind and being self‑abandoning. Expect practical reflections on how to spot your own tells—over‑explaining, apologizing for existing, managing other folks’ emotions—and how to choose discomfort in the moment to avoid bitterness later. It’s direct, funny, and grounded in real life: what recovery from people‑pleasing looks like in mid‑life, how to repair when we slip, and why self‑respect (not performance) is the point. If you’re re‑writing your conflict playbook or trying to show up with more integrity and less anxiety, this one will land.
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